Welcome to my 11 part series of posts, State of Mind Mastery, where the focus is on developing rock solid inner game. This is the goal post (pun intended). We will call this part “Gateway to Goal Setting”. We have to go through a goal setting process if you intend to improve your current position. Since these kinds of guides have been beaten like a dead horse, I won’t make this too complicated.
A Fork in the Road
If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there. When it comes to improvement, whatever you may be trying to improve, you must have clear goals. If you don’t, you could end up spinning your wheels without accelerating. You have to know what would make you happy. Dating MILFs may not be your shindig. Not everyone has to be into Cougars. Dating 18 year old college chicks may not be your shindig either.
Gateway to Goal Setting
You need to set a series of gradually escalating goals. They should be realistic, measurable, and have dates attached to them. I recommend getting a giant paper calendar and writing on it. You need to WRITE the goals down, to enlist yourself with healthy accountability. You will have short term goals, medium term goals, and long term goals.
Small term goals are goals that you can realistically expect to accomplish in 4 to 6 weeks. These can be based on your inner psychology, lifestyle, or skillset. Medium goals are goals you can expect to accomplish in 3 to 6 months. They should be directly related to your small goals. If your small goal is to do one approach a week (that’s 52 women, by the way- a deck of cards!), then maybe you can increase this to approach twice a week, or even once a day if your lifestyle affords it. Long term goals are goals you can accomplish in 6 months to a year. They should be optimistic. You have to be aware of what would need to happen to make it happen, and what would happen if it did happen.
Examples
Here’s an example. Maybe your long term goal is to have a threesome. There are multiple ways for this to go down. Get two girls you’ve slept with in the same room. You can get one by picking up two girls at the same time. You can get one by having one girl and picking up another girl. At some point you’ll need to have at least one girl that’s bisexual. Another goal could be that you want to get married. You’d have to be dating girls and figuring out which one is marriage material, which would obviously be challenging and hard, requiring you to be diligent.
Escalation
It’s important that all these goals follow the rule of escalation! You don’t want to have a small goal of starting approaching and a medium term goal of sleeping with Taylor Swift. The escalation of goals should be like that of steps on a ladder, not teleportation or shape-shifting. So be aware of how well the goal transitions into another goal. It should almost seem seamless, but not too easy of course. Only you yourself can decide what will work best for you, and what will transition well.
An Exercise
An exercise you can do to figure out all your goals would be to get a piece of paper out and spend about an hour writing out EVERY goal idea you have. Think of every possibility, every goal you want to consider rolling with. Once you have thought out everything you could possibly want, narrow it down to your top ten goals. Compare them. Would you rather bang strippers or get married? Would you rather have threesomes or get a long term monogamous girlfriend? You have to figure out what would make you most happy and put your best at the top. Eventually, you will narrow it down to what you want most and have a starting goal to get you going.
Conclusion
I hope this can help you all with your goals! If this gets good reception, I will release a part II for this planned series of posts in around 10 days. The second part will focus on positivity, which is something that can make or break your inner game. Now get to goal setting!